Cheating is unfortunately a facet of relationships people don’t like to talk about. It’s vulgar and it can bring up so much negative feeling that people don’t like to think about it, let alone figure out ways to stop it happening.
Cheating is the biggest threat to most relationships and it can happen in multiple ways. Whether or not you get drunk and make a bad mistake or you are longing for a more emotional connection with someone, there’s a lot of reasons why people cheat, some of which are ‘good’ but most are bad.
Finding out your partner has cheated on you is truly devastating, especially if you didn’t think they would do such a thing. Cheating is a betrayal of trust and you’ll be emotionally scarred for a long time after the event.
A large percentage of infidelity happens to people who aren’t actively looking to cheat. They just happen to be with the wrong people at the wrong time.
Some Relationships Can Continue
There’s a huge amount of people that have the rule “Cheating = Over”.
This is a fair enough rule and someone that cheats probably doesn’t deserve a second chance. You don’t tend to hear relationships that have carried on after a bout of infidelity because nobody wants to dredge up the past and talk about it openly. Some couples do indeed live on after cheating, especially when the reason for cheating was a simple one. A lot of affairs are simply about sex, because people don’t feel like they are intimate enough with their partner anymore, and want to feel like they are still attractive and want to feel loved.
Whether this happens out of their partner being at work all the time and not making any time for each other or other reasons is beside the point.
The top way of reducing infidelity is making sure you spend enough time with your partner to make them feel sexy and attractive. When you don’t do that, people are much more likely to look elsewhere for solace, sex and companionship. Some people might be able to find these things elsewhere, solace from friends and so on, which means they won’t cheat but won’t be happy either. Your relationship is important, no matter what you say, else you wouldn’t be in it. There’s nobody in the world who is too busy to take 15 minutes out of their day to spend with their partner and you are deluding yourself if you think that is okay.
Another method for reducing infidelity is having scheduled talks about any problems in your relationship. Rather than waiting until you are fed up of your partner’s slights, take a proactive approach to problem solving by talking about things before they get out of hand. The old adage “A stitch in time saves nine” is perfect here, because taking about problems before they become massive is so incredibly valuable. It’s difficult to approach these kinds of subjects with your partner, but allotting a time and a place to talk about everything, getting stuff off your chest without judgement or retort until you are finished talking is a great way to lessen the anxiety you might feel from doing so.
Don’t be scared about what your partner might say or do if you suggest this step. If your partner doesn’t like the idea of talking about things, then you may want to start looking elsewhere. Communication is the lifeblood of all relationships, especially romantic relationships.
Find Out What Your Partner’s Needs Are
A lot of couples don’t truly understand what their partner needs to be happy and content. Some people need to have more sex than others to feel useful, whereas others just want to be comfortable in their relationship. Furthermore, some people need emotional solace and someone to work through things with, rather than comfort or sex. Finding out what blend of the three options above your partner needs will be trial and error. Once you’ve figured this out though, there will be no reason for your partner or yourself to look elsewhere because all of their needs are being met by you. If you are comfortable with asking awkward questions, you can always ask your partner what they feel you could do better in the relationship and tell them what they could do to make it stronger. Relationships should be a top priority, especially when they are longer term and getting more and more serious. Infidelity can be stopped with prior action, so don’t wait. If your partner doesn’t want to talk because it is awkward, find a way to get them to. This is important, don’t let them forget this fact about life.