When you first start dating online one of the initial things you do is to set up your profile. Most people think this is one of the easier parts, but in reality your profile dictates exactly how much attention you’ll get online and how successful you will be with online dating.
Generally people put very little effort into writing the profile. Of course up with the name, their age, and perhaps a little bit of a physical description and something about what they do. They might include what they want from partner but that is really about it. This is almost no better than leaving the entire profile section blank. It tells the other people on the site almost nothing about you and makes it easy for them to dismiss you and leave on to the next person. You have to remember on an online dating website, you are up against hundreds, if not thousands, of competitors. Other members looking through profiles will spend only a few seconds on each. If yours does not stand out, you’re sunk.
Here are the three most common ways that people screw up that online profile…
You Don’t Have A Picture
Having a picture is absolutely vital. If you have an online dating profile and you do not have a picture attached to it, stop reading this right now and go and upload one. Nobody bothers with profiles that do not have an image attached. This is the two obvious reasons. One, the immediate thoughts when somebody does not have a picture is that they are not very good-looking and do not want to show themselves. Whether this is true or not doesn’t really matter it is what people think. The second reason is that people think that the account is dormant if no picture is attached. Therefore you have to have some type of image so that people can immediately see you when they are searching through profiles on the site.
However, another mistake people make is to leave it at that, one single picture. This also deters other members as then they think that either this is the only decent photo of you, or it’s just a fake photo. Either way, not good for you. Most sites allow you to upload a number of photos and you should take advantage of this. Upload a face picture showing what you look like, and then some good action pictures, showing what you enjoy doing and allowing people to get a better representation of you.
If you have these pictures your profile is already better than 90% of dating profiles online.
You Say Too Little
This second mistake is exactly what I talked about in the introduction. People in general do not like writing about themselves and bigging themselves up. Unfortunately that is exactly what you need to do on a dating site. Of course, you do not have to sound arrogant or over the top. Instead you can write a good profile about yourself and still keep it funny and charming.
By having a paragraph or two about what you enjoy doing, what your life is like, and what you would like it to be like you can make your profile and interesting read and make people want to contact you to learn more.
Instead of simply listing your hobbies or interests, talk a bit about them. If you enjoy skydiving, described the rush you get as you exit the plane and why it drives you on. If you enjoy music, talk about the last gig you went to see, the first album you ever bought, instead of just listing your favorite bands. This way any potential dater can get much better idea of you and your real personality before getting in touch. Plus, it gives them an in, a way to start conversation with you and to get the ball rolling.
You Say Too Much
Sometimes however people make the opposite mistake. Instead of keeping it to a couple of short paragraphs and anecdotes about their life, they let everything spill out onto the page. They talk about their entire lives, past relationships, ex-boyfriends, and what they really want from the future. Though I think it is good to talk about what you want so potential partners can see if they match, going into too much detail will inevitably put people off.